Anti-social.

I have begun to think I am anti-social. Don’t misunderstand, I do have the social skills and can be perfectly social when I choose to be, but most of the time these days, I just don’t choose to be. I think that if it were not for shmoo, I would probably be living a very solitary life.

I had lunch with Kim this past weekend and we went to knitting group after as well. (I have been a member of this knitting group for about 6+ months now, and this was only the 2nd time I have gone. ) And while at lunch with Kim we were talking about the type of friend we were, and I realized I am possibly a sucky one.

Here’s what it’s like to be my friend: I don’t call you. I don’t invite you to go anywhere or do anything with me. I might comment or email on your blog now and then, but that’s it really. If you call me, or ask me to go somewhere with you, I’ll happily talk to you, and possibly agree to go/meet you somewhere, but I don’t generally initiate meetings and doings. I’d go so far as to say “don’t generally” is a nice cover for “hardly ever”.

It’s not that I don’t like people. I do. I think maybe I am lazy. Or just getting more reticent as I get older. I dunno. But I don’t think it’s a good way to maintain friendships.

Actual knitting should be posted sometime at the end of this week or next week. I have been working on shmoo’s socks again, and am past the heel, and since I am past the heel I figure I should just go ahead and finish the damned things.

4 Replies to “Anti-social.”

  1. No. I don’t think your anti-social. I just think you hold onto what is comfortable. Your partner, your close friends and family. You also do a craft that is solitary–you don’t necessarily need a knitting group to do it. I sound the same as you, but I chalk it up to being an only child, raised by a single mom, and I have a husband whose career leaves me at home with the kids and moving every few years–read: hard to make friends when I know I will be moving on sooner than later. But you blog, and I am sure you have made a lot of cyber friends in the process–like me.

  2. Haha! I am the exact same way! I like reticent…I think I will use that too. Of course, it may make it hard for us to ever get together!

  3. I am like you! Lately I’ve been hiding behind “oh I’m pregnant …” and now “oh I have a baby … I can’t go anywhere or call anyone.” But mostly I think I am just shy and a big dork who thinks “oh so and so won’t want to hang out with me.”

    I sometimes wish I were more outgoing, but I do treasure my alone time too.

  4. I go through phases. Mostly, I don’t want to imopose on my friends, so I wait for them to suggest an outing. Probably too much. Once in a great while I might send them an email that says something like,”want to go out sometime?”

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